After attending over 100 weddings, I can confidently say the most memorable nights are the ones that feel true to the bride and groom. When they have an atmosphere in which they come alive. You won't be able to please all your guests (or even family) but everyone will be much more comfortable if you are enjoying yourself. Trust me.
Here are my tips to start planning a wedding reception you will enjoy. Sit down with your fiance (and wine) and think through some of these.